Food, Festivities And Fashion With Mum

The Christmas holidays have begun – hooray! I love this time of year because I get to spend lots of time with my family. A couple of months ago, I heard about a thirties fashion exhibition as The Fashion And Textile Museum and I knew it’d be the perfect place to take my mum. We’ve built up a tradition of visiting fashion exhibitions over the years and we love making a day of it!

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I bought this dress from a fellow vintage lover on Instagram and I am so happy with it; I love the style and the fit is perfect. I added red tights to bring out the red in the dress.

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Stop 1

First off, we stopped for cake and tea at Chapter 72 to warm up after a very windy walk. Both of us had chocolate Lamingtons – they were so light and delicious.

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Stop 2

We got to the museum in time to say hello to the ever-stylish Sadie. In a stroke of luck, we also managed to get on a guided tour around the exhibition. I’d definitely recommend it as it gives greater context to the fashions on display. We spent just over an hour exploring – well worth the visit!

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Stop 3

We hopped on the tube to Oxford Circus so mum could have a mooch around Liberty. Then, we stopped for another cuppa.

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Stop 4

We walked to Covent Garden to enjoy the Christmas lights and stroll round the shops. Mum had been insisting on getting some gloves to go with my coat but nothing we saw worked. Thankfully, we were near Blackout II Vintage which had the perfect pair for me.

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Stop 5

If you’re in Covent Garden, I highly recommend a visit to Flesh and Buns. We’ve been going there for a couple of years and it never fails to be totally delicious. A margarita is a must because it is the best. We got lots of yummy things to share, leaving full and happy.

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All I can say is that we had such a good time – we ended up sleeping on the train home. Can’t wait to plan the next one!

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Papow Ponders #18: Multiculturalism In The Vintage Community

This week, Nora of @norafinds posted about multiculturalism in the vintage community. There was a great response with people tagging vintage lovers from a variety of backgrounds. Following the post, I spent some time considering this topic in greater depth. These are my personal views of what I have experienced and dealt with – obviously it’s not the same for everyone.

The vintage community, as with all communities, is at times problematic. Regarding multiculturalism, these problems rear their heads in different ways:

Archaic Views – Sadly, sections of the vintage community long for the ‘good old days’. If I went back in time, I’d be suffering much worse racial abuse, my marriage would be condemned and I probably wouldn’t be able to teach. Some people hold a rose-tinted view of the past and will defend their right to return to that life. I have had to explain on more than one occasion why golliwogs are racist and offensive. I have complained at a vintage event about a seller having racist paraphernalia on their stall. Don’t let me get started on the grim number of confederate flags on show. The thing that gets me with all this stuff is the response once you call it out. Some minimise the issue, some will ignore you and some will passionately argue that it’s OK. With right-wing politics on the rise and problematic figures in positions of power, this is a growing issue.

Lack Of Representation – There are a hell of a lot of vintage-loving POC. Under the umbrella of vintage, the majority of adverts, publications and imagery involves white people. It is not truly representative of the vintage community or what our past actually looked like. Why does this happen though? Take a look at the people at the top and find out who those decision-makers are. It’s this kind of culture that can make it difficult to really feel part of the vintage scene.

Cultural Appropriation – This has been an ongoing issue for many vintage reproduction companies. There are also those who want to recreate looks from the past but are ignorant of how problematic these looks might be. As with the above responses to archaic views, people have mixed reactions to feedback on cultural appropriation. It’s an issue because the styling and clothing of marginalised groups which have been mocked or denigrated for years suddenly become acceptable and celebrated when worn by others.

Silent Privilege and Hypocrisy – These come up time and time again in the vintage community. Silent privilege is when people have the power to say or do something but they don’t. Quite often when something problematic occurs, the response in ‘let’s just all be kind’ and the problem remains unaddressed. Hypocrisy is when someone says they stand for something but do nothing about it. There are a number of people who talk the talk on issues like multiculturalism but will still buy from problematic businesses, support questionable people and ignore difficult discussions. It is difficult to get your views across when you are either silenced or ignored.

Now I’m clearly not an expert on any of this but this is my experience and I know I’m not alone in my thoughts and feelings. I really debated whether or not to write this because I get anxious about responses. However, these issues need to be discussed and I’d be a hypocrite if I didn’t say something.

What can you do to make a positive change? Educate yourself and others, listen to marginalised people, accept when you’ve done something wrong and use your privilege for good. All of us mess up (myself included) but how we react when we are given feedback makes a huge impact.

There are so many people out there fighting the good fight. There are accounts, businesses and publications that celebrate multiculturalism in vintage. There are people making their own spaces in the vintage community successfully. Change is happening but, as ever, more needs to be done.

 

 

A Very Merry Sketchmas

Being part of a family full of different religions, I’ve come to view xmas as a time for hanging out with family and friends. Luckily I’m surrounded by those who think similarly. My friend Becky lives quite close to us and we usually spend our time in our flat, eating something yummy and watching whatever takes our fancy while wearing our comfiest clothes. Becky suggested a bit of fun and glam for the holidays so we booked xmas afternoon tea at Sketch. My other half was up for coming along too. We also invited our friend Steph as the four of us are heading to Vegas next year. Steph lives in Liverpool so we can’t meet up as much as we’d like. A lovely bunch of people to spend some time with!

Our dress code was festive fabulousness and we all stepped up to the mark. I felt like a particularly dressy elf.

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As you might already know, I have been to Sketch on more than one occasion as I flippin’ love it! However, during festivities, it’s on a whole other scale…

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Food, as always, did not disappoint. Sketch is already quite a ridiculous place but the addition on carol singers and a ballerina dialled that up to eleven. It was mad and wonderful at the same time.

The people with whom I do these frivolous things are the same people I’d happily chat to on my sofa in my PJs but once in a while it’s nice to get dressed up and do something OTT. These experiences are all the better with good company. I think we might have to make this an annual tradition.

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Thank you to Nick, Becky and Steph for a most glorious day together!

Alternative Xmas Gifts

As some of you might know, my better half and I have been having a massive declutter of our flat. We’d come to the realisation that we have accrued way too much stuff over the past five years. Both of us have the potential to attach sentimental value to any random object so we’ve spent the last week being ruthless. The end should be in sight in the next couple of days. As all of this was going on, I started to consider the upcoming Xmas break. One of my friends sat me down and asked me what gifts I wanted – all I honestly wanted was time and energy (neither of which you can buy). With this in mind, I started to think of alternative Xmas gifts – ones that won’t clutter homes:

Cook

I truly believe that everyone has something they can cook well, whether it’s toast or soufflés. Cooking for someone is an act of love. Before dementia impacted my grandma’s life, she cooked for anyone and everyone who stepped through her front door. My mum does the same and I too love the ability to make people happy with food. Last year, a colleague who is quite the talented baker made me a coffee cake for Christmas and it was such a lovely gift to receive. Remember – it doesn’t have to be big or fancy, it just has to come from you.

Eat

If you’re low on time, ingredients, etc., take someone out for food. One of my favourite things to do is share good food with someone I care for. Again, it doesn’t need to be swanky and expensive. A good coffee and cake or a three course dinner – whatever works. My other half and I always take each other out for something to eat on our birthdays and it’s never a  bad experience.

Visit

This can easily be done cheaply or for free. Going to a gallery, museum, concert, etc. is a good way to treat someone and have some time to hang out together. I’ve started doing this more and more – my friend’s hen do, mum’s birthday and so on. Visiting different places is good for the soul in general so why not take someone with you?

Learn

You could either do this with someone or give a class as a gift. Learning is a lifelong gift and I’m not just saying that because I’m a teacher! There are so many things you could learn: dancing, cookery, languages, pottery and so much more. Also rather than finding an official class, you can ask someone who is an expert in their craft to teach. That talented baker I mentioned from work has taught baking skills. My sister has (tried) to teach me how to crochet. There are lots of learning opportunities.

Pamper

If you have some cash to splash, you could book someone a spa day. However you can still pamper someone on a budget. Grab a couple of face masks, put on your favourite TV show and paint your nails – instant pampering session. You can use items you have at home like coconut oil and sea salt to make inexpensive treatments too. It still feels like a treat.

Walk

Pick a place and walk around it. It doesn’t sound like the most exciting of gifts but it’s actually quite lovely. It’s often the way I meet up with most of my friends: choose a place, walk and get something to eat. I love exploring by myself but it’s much nicer when someone’s with you. It gives you time to talk and catch up, as well as giving you the opportunity to find out about new places. You can adapt it so it works for you.

Watch

This is something my family did a lot when we were younger. We’d grab our favourite films, put on our cosiest PJs and make nibbles for a movie day at home. It’s cheap, relaxing and fun. If you’ve got a friend or family member who’s in need of a duvet day and some rest, this is a good idea. I often do this with my other half or my friend, Becky.

Now, I’m aware that many people might as the question, “How are these Xmas gifts?”.  Thing is, for some, they might not be. All of these things take effort and organisation though. For me, I want to move away from material gifts because they seem more and more unnecessary. I also love being around people and doing things that make them smile and feel special.  What do you think? How do you deal with gift-giving?

 

 

 

Technically Edible: Fuwa Fuwa, Video Games and Bodean’s

At the beginning of November, my better half and I headed into London for one of our favourite things to do – food and exhibitions. Even though both of us work in very different fields and have varied interests, we always seem to find things that keep both of us engaged.

Stop 1: Fuwa Fuwa

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I’d found out about Fuwa Fuwa through the wonder of Instagram. During our Easter visit to California, we’d tried a soufflé pancake at a diner and we’d been experimenting with making our own at home. We’d had varying degrees of success so on seeing Fuwa Fuwa, we knew we had to go. Located two minutes from Russell Square, it’s really easy to get to. The menu is pretty simple: a few pancake options (from original to matcha tea) and a small selection of drinks. Both of us opted for black coffee and original pancakes. I was so excited when I finally got my plate! The original pancakes are comprised of two pancakes, honeycomb butter, maple syrup and vanilla cream. Honestly, they were perfect. We were lost in warm, fluffy, gently sweet clouds. My only complaint was that I ate them too quickly but then that happens to everything I eat. Nick was a very happy bunny too. We’ll definitely be going back.

Stop 2: The V&A

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I’d heard good things about the video games exhibition at the V&A so I thought it’d be worth a visit. My gaming background involves Tekken, Soul Calibur, Left 4 Dead and a bit of Portal; my better half has a much wider repertoire. Although I’m a video game novice, I absolutely loved the entire exhibition. We mooched round for over two hours. Afterwards, we had some time to check out a photography exhibition too.

Stop 3: Bodean’s BBQ

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We finished our day at Bodeans’s BBQ. This place was recommended to me by my mate Steph, who has never steered me wrong on foodie spots. Every time, we get the same thing: a Bodean’s platter. It’s basically a selection of different meats with a couple of sides – we chat, get messy and leave full and happy.

All in all, it was a pretty perfect day that I’d only be too happy to repeat!

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Autumn Outfit Round-Up

Lately, I’ve been reclaiming my wardrobe. For a very long time, I’ve only worn a specific selection of clothing with the rest going into two categories: ‘save it for something special’ or ‘I’m too fat for this’. I’m quite clumsy and have the terrible tendency of dropping food, drink or make-up on anything. My weight also fluctuates slightly which can change how my clothes fit. Trying to spend less on clothes and live with less, I’ve been making an effort to do more with what I own. Instead of saving pieces of best or pre-judging what outfits will look like on me, I’m just getting on with wearing them.  I wish I’d done it sooner.

As I briefly run through these outfits, I thought I’d include how long I’ve owned some of these items.

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This dress is two years old. I’ve worn it multiple times and the buttons on the front have fallen off but I kind of prefer it that way. The style is one of my favourites from Collectif because it’s just really easy to chuck on.

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My jacket’s got to be nearly ten years old. My mum got it for me when we were mooching round vintage shops in Amsterdam. I bought the skirt over two years ago but it remained completely untouched in my wardrobe. It’s actually black with lots of little orange dots on it.

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My skirt is over three years old and was worn only once before this. I worried that it wouldn’t fit me round the waist and so I left it.

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These colours are just a riot of autumn. I picked up the skirt at Twinwood in the summer and I know I’ll wear it again and again. My jacket’s from House of Foxy and it’s one of my favourite pieces!

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This dress is second-hand from a Facebook group. It’s much cheaper than buying new and it came in perfect condition. I’ve bought several items this way.

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I remember when I saw this suit and fell in love with it. I bought it over seven years ago, wore it once and then shoved it in the back of my wardrobe. I thought I’d dig it out to see if it still fit: lo and behold, it did. I’m going to try wearing it more as separates too.

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I remember seeing the design on the  skirt and loving it but I didn’t wear it apart from World Book Day. More outings needed.

I think I need to come up with some kind of system to keep my clothes in rotation so I make the most of my wardrobe. I don’t want to buy more and more – I want to enjoy the clothes I have now. Any ideas?

A Wild Hen Do To Remember

On the Friday of half term, I was honoured to see my wonderful friend Kelly marry her soulmate Grant. Two days prior, Rhina and I organised a day of fabulousness to celebrate her forthcoming nuptials. I think it’s safe to say it was great!

Outfit:

The dress code was animal print so I went with this tiger print shift dress from Hobbs, adding a vintage coat for warmth.

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Stop 1: Victoria Miro

Kelly’s an art teacher so we definitely needed to include something arty on the itinerary. Both of us wanted to see the Kusama exhibition in London but tickets had been sold out for ages. Luckily, I saw a ticket release for half term and managed to snag three for us.

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Stop 2: Spitalfields

The three of us initially got to know each other through our love of vintage style so a bit of a mooch around seemed about right. We sorted a mother of the bride dress first and then strolled around the market. Feeling a bit parched, we stopped for a cuppa and tiny cakes thanks to Rhina!

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Stop 3: Sketch

Our heaven – no other words needed.

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Stop 4: Mr Fogg’s

After cake and tea overload, we ambled to Mr Fogg’s in hope of sampling something a little stronger. My drink certainly put hairs on my chest. It was an intriguing drinking spot and a great end to our spectacular day!

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Although I know we would have had a good time at home, a ridiculous day out was very much needed. I love these two more than they know!

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